Posts Tagged ‘stuttering’

Gain Confidence Tips And Tricks

Friday, May 7th, 2010

I was always somebody who had many confidence issues as I grew up, from a child, through to adulthood. I firmly believed that I had been dealt a very bad hand of cards and I often became rather down in the dumps. The issues that I had in my life were:

A bald patch the size of a ten pence piece on my head

A problem with my speech known as a stuttering

A weight problem, I was quite fat for my height

I am quite short for a male at five-foot-four

Certain people would take the mickey out of me, and their comments would hurt. I would always make sure they did not see my anger but inside I was crying.

I could not live life this indefinitely and aged 22 I decided to fight back. My quest for a better life began with me reading a lot of literature to do with how to gain confidence and how to increase self-esteem. I was eager to become a success as I wanted to run by own business selling external doors. I had spent far too long offering advice with regards to flyer printing and needed a change.

These were the things I had to take on board:

It is not important what other people think of you, it is what you think that counts

You need to start to like yourself

There are various things about your person, you do not like but which you can not change. You therefore have to start accepting these things and realising that maybe there are other people in life who are more unfortunate than you.

You need to have respect for yourself

Do not accept second best in life

Be happy

Learn to relax

Treat yourself to some pleasures. Like a regular massage or reflexology.

I had managed to achieve a personal happiness by following the advice in the above paragraphs.


Words Of Wisdom

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Advice To Help People To Eradicate A Stutter

Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Stuttering affects people in different ways. There are those people who you would never believe would have a stutter and this is because they are so good at hiding it. Many people they mix with, may not even be aware that they have a stuttering problem. They have become so good at avoiding certain words or by finding alternative words, that they can make out that they are fluent. This is something which requires a great deal of effort and just imagine the other person shock when they do eventually stutter.

Other people who have a stutter are unable to do this and can have what is seen as a more severe stutter.

A person who has a stutter can find the following situations quite difficult:

under pressure

very tired

meeting new people

talking in a new environment

asking questions, for example asking how to find a bank or a building society

introducing people

Stuttering treatment:

There are many types of stuttering help or stuttering treatments available these days. Most people would first try a speech therapist or speech pathologist. Alternatively they can attend a speech course which can be in a group or on a one to one basis.

I personally prefer and advise one to one stuttering courses as I believe every person who has a stutter is an individual and has their own individual type of stutter.

There are also stuttering self help DVD’s or stuttering self help ebooks now available for people who do not feel they have the confidence to attend a speech course.

Whichever option people choose it essential that they have the attitude to work hard as there is unfortunately no magic pill to cure this form or in fact any form of speech impediment.

You may well have read that the techiques can be successful in eradicating a stammer or stutter but this success only comes via hard work and dedication.

Work hard and you will receive the desired rewards – and that is total fluency.

 

 

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How To Attain Your Lifetime Goals

Wednesday, March 3rd, 2010

I personally believe that it is essentail that we set ourselves personal targets over various periods including a lifetime goal. It is one thing setting yourself these targets, however it is another thing to actually achieve them.

Write down your goals

I have always wanted to be a success and to have a happy life, I am sure this is the same for most people. In the early part of my life I was unable to achieve both of these aims; this was partly because I had a stuttering problem. In my early to mid twenties I decided to attempt to learn about ways in which I could ensure that the future would be a lot better, than what the past had been. I soon began to read literature about these subjects in my quest to improve my life.

I soon realised the importance of setting goals and targets and was hopeful that this could help me to stop stuttering. I thought about what I wanted to be and which course I wanted my life to take. I wrote out three different lists of my aims for the future.

The first list included what I wanted to achieve within the next twelve months. The second list contained what I wanted to achieve within five years and the third list was my lifetime goals – one of which was to own my own company selling composite front doors.

Avoid negative people

There are people out there who try to bring me down. Nasty comments, dirty looks and gossiping were all things that these nasty people would do. They look at me as If I am worthless and some kind of loser. These type of people have caused me many sleepless nights and have had a negative affect on my self-confidence.

Quite simply the answer to this problem is to stay away from them, this is not always easy however.

I have now managed to achieve fluency as well as personal happiness – life is now very good.

I also own a business and also work on a part-time basis working along side a business cost reduction specialist.

As you can see life is now so much better for me and I am sure that it could be for you.

 

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Start Your Weight Loss Program Today

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

In my late teens I was far to over-weight and was not happy about it. Then I would write a list of all of the ways in which I was going to lose weight – the problem being that I would then not act on them.

I suppose that I was obese due to the fact that I comfort ate because I had a stutter. The stuttering treatment on offer was not working and I could just see no prospect of me to ever stop stuttering.

These are the reasons I would make at that stage of my life, to put off my attempts at losing weight:

I am too tired. In the morning, I would wake up with very good intentions. I would tell myself that after I finish work, that I would go for a short jog. I would then do some fitness work at home such as using the dumb bell weights which I had bought many months ago. I would also try a few press ups and also start watching what I was eating.

After work, I would return home and would then make up the excuse that I am too tired. Instead of going for a jog today, I would start my fitness regime tomorrow etc. Working for a composite door company, selling cheap holidays, was far from easy and I would come home very tired. This is perhaps one reason why I now work for a group of DVD duplication experts lol.

I have a rather aching body today. This was a regular excuse. I would tell myself that if I start exercising today, I may well do myself more damage than good.

It could be dangerous. When thinking in more depth about my great plan to go running I then started to convince myself that it could, in reality, be quite dangerous. I could bump into a murderer or a rapist who could then in turn end up killing me?

I eventually after many years decided to stop making up these excuses. I had to be determined to not only start up a fitness regime but to stick to it. It was not easy at all but after quite a long time I reached a weight which I was happy with.

 

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The Way In Which I Managed To Gain Personal Happiness

Tuesday, September 15th, 2009

I am now in a happy place, I have pride in where I am at in comparison to where I have been and I now live a contented life. Why? Well because I have managed to turn my life around. The days when I stress, worry and become depressed over the slightest thing are over. I now live life with a smile on my face and am very much looking forward to the future. In this article I will be describing how I went about and succeeded in making these life changes.

Besides my nervous way of speaking (I had a speech impediment commonly referred to as stuttering), the following areas of confidence coaching were of interest to me:

I had, for whatever reason, a lack of belief at the workplace

For whatever reason I was a person who believed that he would fail every task that he was set

I wanted to become far more assertive

I would often get dragged down by negative comments

I was paranoid (at least a subtle feeling) that people don’t like me

For some bizarre reason I would often feel
very sorry for myself

I wanted to be able to speak with authority and presence

I wanted to see fear and anxiety as a challenge and not as a prison cell

I wanted to learn to be self-assured and to be able to feel comfortable in any place, anytime

I wanted to be able to talk to anyone, at anytime and feel completely in control and natural

As you can see I wanted quite a lot! By reading literature about how to gain confidence, how to increase self-confidence and about how to become a success helped me, in some degree, with all of the above. I realised that I needed to be a lot more care-free, I needed to stop worrying about what other people thought of me and I needed to appreciate what I had in life. Only by doing this will I ever have any chance of becoming a success.

I am now a lot more confident and proficient in my business life which is in the website promotion sector. It is a good place to be – happy at work and happy at home.

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